Dragon Slayers Unite!

Your self-righteous indignation is the problem, not the solution.
Get over yourself; and realize how ineffective, and small, you really are. - david

There is toil of the mind, and there is toil of the body.

And in both instances, there can be emotion turmoil as well.

So, know that this emotional turmoil...

is mostly the result of the alpha male energy ruling this planet.

And as long as the 'alpha male energy' rules this planet,

(greed, power, control, dominance, possession, pride, narcissism, etc.)

We will be stuck with a 'life in revolution', which will eventually destroy us.

Ultimately, we must transform this 'alpha male energy' into effective service.

Now, this is easier said than done.

For we do not know how to transform our human emotions into effective service.

In fact, the 'alpha male energy' prevents us from realizing this.

Bottom line, human emotions are natural.

And feeling anger is a natural response to feeling hurt.

And by resisiting the feeling of hurt, anger and bitterness,

or by being in denial of feeling hurt, angry, and bitter...

we only exacerbate the problem; for what we resist, persists.

We must transform our hurt, our anger, and our bitterness...

into a passionate purpose that effectively serves the greater good.

We must transform these disparate institutional indoctrinations,
into a cohesive one-world government that effectively serves the greater good.
And this will require a wise and enlightened ruler, to captain spaceship earth. - david

Narcissism, the primary methodology of the alpha male energy,

is a natural aspect of the creature as we descend.

To ascend, we must transform our narcissism,

which is all about seeing those around us as extensions of ourself,

and therefore using those extensions around us (other people),

for our own selfish ends; thus co-creating our egocentric transgressions.

So, we must transform our narcissism, from our will to receive, into the will to bestow.

But this is not done by condemning ourselves for being narcissistic,

nor is it done by being in denial about our narcissism.

In fact, our resistance to our narcissism only exacerbates it.

You see, only in recognizing and appreciating our narcissism,

as the truth of our childish, immature, and adolescent ways...

can we realize our own hypocrisy, in all that we say and do.

Then, and only then, can we transform our narcissism into humility,

For we are all hypocrites and liars... until we aren't.

Bottom line, only in humility, which requires joyful self-sacrifice,

can we transform our will to receive, into the will to bestow.

For there is no demonstrating humility, without the gift of bestowal.

And to bestow, you must give of yourself in a joyful manner.

Again, you must joyfully self-sacrifice.

Friendships are often put to sea in rough waters.
So remember, a fair weather friend, is no friend at all.
Ultimately, friendship takes a lot of joyful self-sacrifice, compassion, and humility.
For we are all retarded fools... we just haven't realized it yet. - david

I have no intentions of surrounding myself with people who allow the alpha male energy to rule them.  However, I am willing to manipulate that desire in others, as a wise and enlightened ruler.  So the question is; to what end, am I willing to manipulate that desire in others?

Well, obviously, money is a short term motivator.
And while money is the primary goal of many...
this is only the result of the alpha male energy ruling this planet.

(alpha male energy = greed, power, control, possession, dominance, narcissism, pride, etc.)

Now, the alpha male energy makes us believe that human emotions are a sign of weakness. So we live in denial of our suffering, and therefore resist our feelings of hurt.  Which, of course, only exacerbates the problem.

So, to answer the question: to what end, am I willing to manipulate that desire in others?

Well, I will use and transform people's projection of the alpha male energy...
into the truth our our interdependency.

• I will do so by practicing the way of impartial-nobility.
• I will do so by having a paradigm of holistic-humanism.
• I will do so by being honorably-authentic.
• I will do so by being compassionately-confrontational.
*And, of course, this is the only way to be effectively-kind.

So, to what end will I manipulate others:
• I will help guide 4% of the world's population into the super-conscious.
• I will help bring the feminine, into balance with the masculine.
• I will help make the last, first.

So, please understand that I understand my role more deeply than you can fathom.
And the only way you can know me, is to know you.
And to know you, you gotta make an effort to know me.

Which, in the short-term, may cause you more pain and suffering.
I am sorry for this, but destroying our delusions is often painful,

and change is the only constant.

And change we must, if we are to be EFFECTIVELY KIND!

But that doesn't mean I am not also hurt and angered by this process and role.

It just means I AM BOTH grateful and impassioned.

For I transform my hurt, and my anger,

into a passionate purpose that effectively serves the greater good.

Finally, to be 'in-service' is one thing; and to be 'effectively-kind', is quite another.

Divining a Virtuous Life

One who stays in the shade;

does not know the sun's heat.

- African: Igala Proverb

THE DEDICATION

My endeavors do not merely aim at my own deliverance.

For I take upon myself the burden of all suffering;

I am resolved to do so; I will endure it.

I myself must grapple with the suffering of all beings.

To the limit of my endurance...

I will experience all the states of woe.

And I must not cheat by using the store of my own merit,

I am resolved to abide in each single state of woe...

for numberless aeons;

and so I will help all beings to freedom.

- Buddhism: Sikshasamuccaya 280-291, Vajradhvaja Sutra

Greater love has no man than this,

that a man lay down his life for his friends.

- Christianity: John 15.13

THE NOBLE EIGHTFOLD PATH

Right Purpose

(enjoying life to its fullest potential)

(while dedicating your life to the greater good)

Right Mission

(effectively helping others to help themselves; by getting them to help others...)

(while balancing the masculine and feminine synergies)

Right Intentions

(applying equanimity in achieving your goals and playing your roles)

(while choosing goals that effectively contribute to the purpose & mission)

Right Paradigm

(it is both; the paradoxical and dichotomous nature of truth)

(while knowing your are an individuation of god; and we are diversely-interdependent)

Right Actions

(make no egocentric transgressions)

(while endeavoring to atone through good works)

Right Livelihood

(you are not your job)

(you are what you do, how you do, and why you do)

Right Nourishment

(you are what you eat)

(true fulfillment comes from being effectively kind)

Right Association

(you must share in the distress of your community)

(you are only as good as the people you surround yourself with)
*but remember, a single candle can light a dark room

A man should share in the distress of the community,

for so we find that Moses, our teacher, did so.

- Judaism: Talmud, Taanit 11a

THE VIRTUOUS LIFE

We Communicate Our Truth Without Attachment

(we express our feelings and thoughts to others effectively in love)

We Listen

(we truly strive for comprehensive understanding)

We Persevere with Equanimity

(we continue on in the goal of fulfilling all of our dreams without expectation)

We are Generous

(we give our help to all those who are willing to pass it on)

We Inspire with Humility & Hubris

(we lead by our example while practicing 'virtue ethics' in all that we do)

We are Impactful

(our actions help others to the truth and joy within themselves)

We are Compassionate

(we perceive with empathy and wisdom, while acting effectively kind)

We are Altruistic

(we strive for the well being of us all, while embracing the paradigm of holistic humanism)

We are Faithful and Appreciative

(we know there is absolute love in all of creation and give thanks via our 'good works')

We Defend the Universal Truths!

(we are a spectrum of interdependent-diversity; on a paradoxically-dichotomous quest)

If those who are morally well-adjusted;

and talented, abandon those who are not,

then scarcely an inch will separate the good,

from the depraved. - Confucianism: Mencius IV.B.7

THE SHEPHERD, THE CAPTAIN & THE KING!

KING: What sins have I committed for which I have incurred this deepest of hell; frightful for its torments. I protected the earth with my uprightness; I let no fighting rage; and no guest departed with averted countenance; nor did I covet; or make egocentric transgressions. How then, have I incurred this very terrible hell?

EGO of EXPERIENCE: Come then, we go elsewhere. You have now seen everything, for you have experienced hell. Come then, let us go elsewhere.

THE PEOPLE: Be gracious O king! stay but a moment, for the air that clings to the body gladdens our mind and entirely dispels the burning and the sufferings and pains from our bodies. O tiger-like man! Be gracious O king!

KING: Neither in heaven nor in the world do men experience such joy as arises from conferring bliss on the suffering. If, while I am present, torment does not hurt these men, here then will I remain, firm as a mountain.

EGO of REWARD: Come, O king; we proceed. Enjoy the delights won by your own merit; leave here the evil-doers to their torments.

KING: As long as these people are in sore suffering, I will not go. To grant deliverance to these people enlivens, I believe, the joy of heaven. If many sufferers shall obtain happiness while only I undergo pain, shall I not in truth embrace it?

EGO of CONSEQUENTIALISM: These evil-doers have come to hell in consequence of their own deeds; you also, O king, must go to heaven in consequence of your meritorious deeds. I lead you to heaven; mount this heavenly chariot and linger not; let us go.

KING: Men in billions suffer pain here in hell; and being in affliction they cry to me to save them; hence I will not depart.

EGO of COMPASSION: O king! your merit is truly beyond reckoning. In demonstrating your compassion here in hell, your merit has amounted even higher. Come, enjoy the abode of the immortals; let these unfortunates consume away in hell the sin arising from their own actions!

KING: Whatever good deeds I possess, O Lord, by means thereof let the sinners who are undergoing torment be delivered from hell!

THE LORD: So be it O king! You have gained an even more exalted station: see to it that these sinners are delivered from hell!

- Hinduism: Markandeya Purana 13-15

The Duality of Life

There is no knowing love, without a relationship to another.

There is no relationship with love, without the individuations of god.
There is no experiencing love, without the illusion of fear.
Ultimately, there is no loving, without the gift of the ego-self and the ten senses.
And finally, there is only love. - david

All the world is a stage.
And it is your responsibility to develop a stronger and more flexible character,
that embraces the paradoxically-dichotomous nature of the quest for joy;
while also embracing the diversely-interdependent spectrum of balance,
via the noble/lover archetypes.

So let's begin:

TO BE BOTH...

masculine and feminine...
is to embrace the triadic truth of authenticity...
meaning, to be authentic, you must be transparent.
And to be transparent, you must be vulnerable.

But as we all learn growing up...
Boys don't cry; and boys like the color blue...
and Girls play with dolls; and girls like the color pink.

yet, not all of us fit within these boxes...
and many of us are FORCED into these boxes.

So what we are talking about here is a mutual understanding.
OF TWO PRINCIPLES... the feminine and the masculine.
but the complexity of these two principles lies in the battle between;
THE HEART AND THE EGO!
or more clearly...
between the subconscious/conscious and the SUPER/SUPRAconscious.

And i think the very best way to describe this struggle...
is through Archetypal Motivation.

and god knows my ego LOVES to use these as tools;
for bringing people to the truth within.

You see, by mirroring people AND shadow dancing;
I am most effective at helping others; help themselves...
as well as getting people to hate my guts! (for it is them; they truly hate).

And on a personal note... while I may profess selflessness...
I am also aware that there is no such thing.
For what I do for you... I do for me. we are one.
And I am sick of everyone wanting me to be Ghandi-like.
Be cause - I AM MULTITUDES!!!

Listen guys...
I read a lot of crap that has been written about 'the way'.
And I experimented with all of that crap.
Thus assuring me they were mistaken.

The weird thing is though...
I LOVE ALL THE CRAP!!!
I love playing in the mud... i really do.
And I truly miss all the pain and misery I inflicted upon myself.

But I have found a new type of pain and misery...
the pain and misery of fatherly/motherly servitude.
While not near as much fun as egocentric myopia;
it truly is a much more joyful experience.
And as much as I hate being misunderstood...
I despise hating myself... much more.
This is the journey... and the adventure.

With that said...
let's see if we can't give us some tools...
to help guide us in the adventure of life.

Manipulation is just another form of lying, and cultivation is another form of nurturing.
And more often than not, nurturing is the most effective method. - david

As illustrated above...

The FIVE Feminine Archetypes to strive for are:
LOVER, NURTURER, CULTIVATOR, GUARDIAN, QUEEN.

(these are all enlightened aspects of the sacred feminine)

Now, the duality to the sacred feminine is represented by...
The FIVE immature control dramas:
OEDIPAL, PRECOCIOUS, SCIENTIST, DIVINE, HERO.

For example...
A cultivator also uses science in her cultivation of others.
But the Cultivator Archetype is ruled by the heart...
whereas the scientist archetype is ruled by the ego.

BOTH are required to effectively help others; to help themselves.

Finally, we have the mature control dramas of the feminine:
The CONSORT and the BITCH...
typically, these controlling archetypes are founded in the Oedipal.
Meaning, the person will use both the consort and bitch archetypes...
to vanquish their competitors; whomever they may be.

Faith, if you so desire it, enables you to NOT use your past,
as the reasons for your future. - david

As illustrated above...

The FIVE Masculine Archetypes to strive for are:
LOVER, EXPLORER, MAGICIAN, SOLDIER, KING.

(these are all enlightened aspects of the sacred masculine)

Now, the duality to the sacred masculine is represented by...
The FIVE immature control dramas:
OEDIPAL, PRECOCIOUS, SCIENTIST, DIVINE, HERO.

For example...
An explorer is also a precocious brat...
when he is seeking a path to the way.
But the Explorer Archetype is ruled by the heart...
whereas the precocious archetype is ruled by the ego.

BOTH are required to effectively help others; to help themselves.

Finally, we have the mature control dramas of the masculine:
The WIZARD and the MERCENARY...
typically, these controlling archetypes are founded in the Oedipal.
Meaning, the person will use both the wizard and mercenary archetypes...
to vanquish their competitors; whomever they may be.

To effectively help ourself;
you must have the humility of a great teacher,
and the passion of a great student. - david 

IN THE END THOUGH!

We must embrace BOTH the Masculine & the Feminine.

For...
A King is a Queen; A Queen is a King
A King is a Soldier; A Soldier is a King
A Queen is a Guardian; A Guardian is a Queen
A Soldier is a Guardian; A Guardian is a Soldier
An Explorer is a Cultivator; A Cultivator is an Explorer
The Magician is an Explorer; The Explorer is a Magician
The Cultivator is a Nurturer; The Nurturer is a Cultivator
A Magician is a Nurturer; A Nurturer is a Magician

please...
embrace both the masculine and feminine archetypes...
while embracing the QUEST FOR JOY!

1. engage the journey by taking passionate action!
2. embrace the process with humility, for it is riddled with mistakes.
3. build a bridge to belief, by experimenting with causality.
4. take the leap of faith, by trusting in your good works.
5. become loyal to the principle-method of effective kindness.

The Noble Archetypes

Sometimes you have to be more feminine than masculine.
And sometimes you have to be more masculine than feminine.
And most of the time, you have to be both, and in a diversely-interdependent way.
- david

Listen... all of these Noble/LOVER archetypes have a shadow side to them.

For we all leave a shadow on the earth... when we walk in the light.
This is, of course, referring to the EGO; which is the shadow.
Please remember: there is not one; without the other.

However, if you can hold true to the vision...
then know the dog of ego can only bark... not bite.
I personally, keep the dog of ego at bay...
by playing the misfit jester as much as possible.
This enables me to remember that the joke is me.
thus keeping the ego in its rightful place...
subservient to the heart.

Now, with that said...
let's look at each Archetype:

The Queen: noble feminine

The Queen Archetype is first because it is the most noble.
for the queen must be in balance with both the masculine...
and the feminine synergies.
Thus appearing to be masculine in some cases.

But ultimately, the queen is selfless, seasoned and wise.
And this can only be accomplished by embracing...
ALL...
of the masculine and feminine 'lover' archetypes.

The Guardian: noble feminine

Which brings us to The Guardian Archetype...
The guard...
is loyal, committed and strong.

The difference from being a soldier; is one of purpose...
for the guardian is protective and defensive in nature.
And the guard often becomes a soldier of exploration...
in an effort to discover the truth within; via personal experience.

But it is always done to discover a more effective posture.
Or a more effective method of protection and defense.

As with all of the archetypes...
a good guard (the feminine) is a good soldier (the masculine)...
and a good soldier (m) is a good guard (f).
there is not one without the other.

The Nurturer: noble feminine

And now The Nurturer Archetype...
for the nurturer is the knower who guides us in feminine evolution.
But it must be done out of altruism...
and not of obligated duty.

For, if it is done for the reasons of obligation...
then it is being done for the ego.

You see, all nurturing must come from the heart...
and must be selfless in nature...
lest it become the narcissism of the ego.
therefore negating and destroying all in its path.

And the nurturer must also be a magician...
lest the ones being nurtured become spoiled brats.
for a nurturer cultivates as well as guides us in...
masculine evolution (the magician)...
And the magician manipulates us into doing it ON OUR OWN!

Again, there is no nurturing...
without the manipulation of the magician.
And no magician without the nurturer.
WE MUST BE BOTH!...
when the time arises.

The Cultivator: noble feminine

Thus we come to The Cultivator Archetype...
which is the hard worker who seeks truth via personal responsibility.
and I gotta say... this is the most difficult to implement.
for to cultivate those around us; we must also nurture.
While at the same time being a soldier; committed to the purpose.

And to cultivate is to be an instrument of good...
whereas nurturing; is the soil of cultivation.

Meaning...
if we cultivate without nurturing...
we KILL THE ONES we are cultivating.
No one said it would be easy to have a green thumb.

But if you must raise children...
then you must first be successful with plants and pets...
if you are not good at both...
then please... don't have kids.

Again, the cultivator must explore...
and the explorer must cultivate.

The King: noble masculine

The King Archetype is second because our Earth is out of balance.
And a great king must also be queen to the land and its people.
If not, the king becomes lost in the battle of war and conquest.

Ultimately, a king is selfless, seasoned and wise.
Which can only be accomplished by embracing...
ALL...
of the masculine and feminine 'lover' archetypes.

The Soldier: noble masculine

So now we come to The Soldier Archetype...
And the soldier does not desire armed conflict...
but is sometimes reduced to such things...
for the betterment and preservation of all that is wholly.

A soldier must defend the universal truths.
And a soldier with hubris; is loyal, aggressive, committed and strong.
A soldier must also cultivate those around him...
for in cultivating others to become a good soldier...
a good soldier can become a king.

But again...
a good soldier is also a good guardian.
and a good guardian is a good soldier.

The Explorer: noble masculine

So now we come to The Explorer Archetype...
and as you will discover by engaging the journey,
to be an explorer without a purpose of good...
is to be operating in the shadow side of exploration.

For the explorer is the risk taker seeking truth via...
personal experiences.
And more often than not...
the explorer forgets to balance his journey...
with the need for cultivating those around him.

And to cultivate... is to nurture.
You see, by not balancing the explorer in the feminine...
the explorer becomes a zealot in his desire for reward.
leaving the blood of the dead in his path.

And yet again...
there is no explorer without the cultivator...
and no cultivator without the explorer.

The Magician: noble masculine

Which leaves us with The Magician Archetype...
probably the most thankless archetype there is.
For the magician manipulates us in masculine evolution...
by getting the student-teacher to do the work on his own.

And this takes lying, omitting, and exaggerating...
but again...
if this is not balanced in the feminine archetype of nurturing...
then the magician can become the evil wizard...
who desires to control and possess all those he 'helps'.
rather than cultivating and exploring, the best methods...
for helping others to help themselves.

You see, the magician leads us to the truth within ourselves.

And one last time...
there is no magician without the nurturer...
and no nurturer without the magician.

BE THE LOVER!

Emotions, when integrated, synthesized and synergized;
with reason and action, is passion!  And passion is the spark of life. - david

In conclusion...
the masculine must be balanced with the feminine...
and this can't be done without embracing The LOVER Archetype...
calling you from within.

But remember, you use all of the noble archetypes when serving the greater good.
Meaning, sometimes you have to be more feminine than masculine...
and sometimes you have to be more masculine than feminine...
and most of the time, you have to be both, and in a diversely-interdependent way.

EMBRACE THE WAY OF IMPARTIAL NOBILITY!

Relationships & Egoism

I will not spare thee me! - david 

For some strange reason, all this relationship crap has surrounded me.
So I am going to make one more attempt at understanding the situation.
And to do this, I must be empathetic and put myself in the other's shoes.

First and foremost... F*#K COMPROMISE!
IT IS NOT ABOUT COMPROMISE!
it is about sacrifice.

Now listen, sacrifice is a choice, not a result.
Meaning, you make a choice to JOYFULLY SACRIFICE...
for the sake of a healthy relationship.
Otherwise, it's not a true sacrifice, it's a cross to bear.

And who the heck wants to be with someone who bears a cross?

Don't you see, our view of sacrifice is the victims perspective.
Whereas the choice to JOYFULLY SACRIFICE is a boon to us all.

When you are happy, I am happier; we are one. - david. 

Now let me give you an oversimplified example:

Let's say you and your significant other are walking down the street...
and your more feminine partner is pretending to enjoy herself...
BUT you know that she is just pretending.
So you get a little upset that she won't tell you the truth about her lack of joy.
Whereas, you are having a great time,
and if she would embrace it, so would she.

But know this, there are two solutions here!

First, understand that women often lie about their happiness.
And it is because they want validation in knowing that you love them.
So just by recognizing their unhappiness and offering another way...
you have validated the relationship.
You see, if you truly love them, you will know when they are lying...
and make the sacrifice to lead them to where they will be happy.

Second, the woman can make a sacrifice AND choose to be truly happy...
when their man is happy.

So please understand it is always a choice of resistance or embracement.
And it is in the intricacies of those two primal choices...
that it gets really interesting.

Finally, make a valiant effort to understand empathetically.
And be selfless, but always remember to include yourself, in the 'self'-less-ness.

And beware of the role you play...
for even parents, the epitome of a selfless role,
have narcissistically perverted their role...
by making their children an extension of themselves...
rather than a child of god/life/love...

In other words, your significant other IS NOT AN EXTENSION OF YOU!

They are an interdependent part of the whole.

And for there to be unity of purpose, there must be joyful sacrifice.

We are not equal.
We are equally important. - david 

And if you are unwilling to joyfully sacrifice,
then the alternative is to be forced to change.

Listen, I have been through many episodes of forced change throughout my life.
And I hated every single episode with a passion.
For I realized that nearly every episode of forced change was not necessary.
And it was not necessary because it was enforced by our societal belief system.

Meaning, the people around me thought they were doing what was best for me.
When, in fact, they were doing what would hurt them the least...
and hurt me the most.
And they justified their forced change upon me...
by falsely believing their way was the right way for everyone.

For example,
I see a lot of baby boomer parents shamelessly spoiling their children.
And then expecting them to leave home and make it on their own.
When the parents have done nothing to prepare them for such an event.

Then most of these same parents FORCE their children...
to leave home and make it on their own; when they come to a certain age.

But not really, for they can always return home...
and be shamed by society for NOT 'making it on their own'.

When in fact, this is all total bullshit.
NO ONE MAKES IT ON THEIR OWN! NO ONE!

And this is where our egocentricity comes into play.
And no institution on earth is exempt from this complete and total bullshit.
Not religion, not family, not medicine, not education, not any of it!
All of it lacks the truth of integration and interdependency.

Meaning, if we do not help our children learn how to help others...
we are compounding the effects of this morass, we call civilization.

So, what's the solution you may ask?
The solution is compassionate perception manipulation.
And this can only be done by implementing a keystone solution.
A keystone solution that integrates our egocentric institutions into...
the truth of our diverse-interdependency.

And the only way this can be done...
is by manipulating our capitalistic paradigm...
into a more holistic and humanistic paradigm of social-capitalism...
where the principle of effective kindness...
reigns supreme.

Justification is so often used,
as the motive behind compartmentalization;
which is really just a form of delusion and denial,
and therefore a form of cowardice. - david 

Now, the paradigm of holistic-humanism is based on the science of being human.

And is founded on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...
There a FIVE LEVELS to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs:

1. Survival
2. Safety and Security
3. Belonging
4. Self-Esteem
5. Self-Actualization and Peak Experiences

And the idea behind self-actualization is the ability to integrate all 5 levels,
while also integrating the masculine and feminine archetypes,
into an enlightened character that knowingly serves life/love/god.

The most effective way to integrate the aforementioned human needs...
is to manipulate your own perception...
by becoming loyal to the principle of effective kindness...
via the roles you play in your life:

• multiple role co-creation
• aligning roles with the art of fulfillment
• multiple role embracement
• effective implementation of roles
• constantly evolving roles

In truth, there is only ourself.
We are each a part of the divine fabric of life.
We are one, we are god, we are life, and we are love.
But without the dichotomies and the paradoxes...
we couldn't experience any of it.

So be thankful for all of it.
And engage the process!

The process of becoming loyal to the principle of effective kindness,
is riddled with mistakes. - david 

As you can see, I am pretty hard on people.
But, in actuality, I keep a lot of it bottled up inside.
And this is because I am also very empathetic and sensitive,
and I don't want to hurt people, because I know how it feels.

And this is why I write... to let it out.
And when I write it, it doesn't sound so harsh as when I speak it.
And this is because I have time to reflect as I write.
But this process also helps me speak 'it' with more compassion.

And this is a good thing.

Nevertheless, I must now address the possessiveness of egoism...

YOU DON'T OWN YOUR KIDS!
OR YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR WIFE!
OR YOUR GIRLFRIEND OR YOUR BOYFRIEND!
OR YOUR FRIENDS OR YOUR FAMILY!
OR YOUR COWORKERS OR YOUR EMPLOYEES!

Meaning...
YOU DO NOT OWN GOD!
for we are god.

And every single person in your life...
is a REFLECTION OF YOU!!!

So by recognizing greatness in another...
you are recognizing greatness in you.

By recognizing faults in another...
you are recognizing faults in you.

And each are examples which have been brought to you...
to help evolve you.

But you must ask yourself in what way these examples are you.
And this is called self-analysis.

So remember, when you are being possessive and protective...
you are really expressing your fear of loss.

And the more possessive and protective you are...
the greater the chance you will lose that which you so desperately desire.

For we attract that which we fear.
and at the same time...
the more you want something...
the more you push it away.

You see, desperation and wanting,
only creates more desperation and wanting.
For the sponsoring thought is the fear of not getting it.

While KNOWING YOU ALREADY HAVE IT...
is the love of giving it to others.

You get what you give.

The Impermanent Nature of Things...

Don't knock it till you try it,
you'd be surprised at the shit that goes down. - david 

Our destructive powers are amazing...

for what has been built over generations, can be destroyed in a second.
and I think the atom bomb best symbolizes our ability to destroy.

And being the immature spoiled brats we are...
we can't imagine demonstrating appreciation...
for the opportunity to find that out;

the opportunity to experience the consequence of our actions.

(for life is about experience, and evolving from our experiences)

So I got this personal story to tell you...
and it's about our power of destruction...
and our ability to self-righteously justify our actions...
while really condemning others and being the purveyors of revenge!
(or otherwise known as the purveyors of 'justice')

Our choices, our incongruent perceptions, and our paradigm;
co-creates our reality. - david 

So, I was in the 6th grade and was hanging out on a man made island (that was dredged up during the construction of a canal system); built in a swamp, and connecting the canals/housing subdivision, to the inter-coastal waterway, on the eastern coast of florida...

And me and my buddy Adam came across this 20 foot high wooden platform that was poorly constructed and most definitely a bone breaking hazard for those who dared to climb it and jump in the canal. Which is what it was built and used for. And I use the term 'built' loosely.

I mean, come on man; me and my pal had been building forts since the third grade, and this piece of garbage platform was a disgrace; as well as being an affront to any well-grounded carpenter like myself. So to demonstrate my power to destroy, that which was so poorly built, I knocked it down with one push to a crucial support beam. And the whole thing came tumbling down in a heap.

NOW, little did I know that one of the guys who 'built' it, and who happened to be in the 8th grade, was across the river watching us. And as soon as it was destroyed by me, in one fell swoop, he came across the river for JUSTICE! but not until he got his other friends to help kick our ass.

SO, Adam and I had time to gather our gear and jump in the canoe and make a run for it; but we didn't make it in time. They had caught us and began to take our gear and throw it in the river. And then they found my pride and joy... my custom wood bbgun! And threatened to throw it in the river as well. I begged and pleaded on my knees, while lamenting my loss, for them to grant me mercy, but they did not.

To my utter satisfaction, they decided to demonstrate their shooting prowess by having one guy hold out a paddle, while the other guy, from across the river, aimed my bbgun and shot at the paddle. And as I screamed for mercy, I begged them NOT TO DO IT! I told them the site was off and that the wind was too strong. I even yelled at them to stop.

HOWEVER, he shot the gun anyway, and instead of hitting the paddle, he hit the guy holding the paddle 'right between the eyes'. The guy that was hit, ran off screaming and crying, while the guy who shot the gun, gave it back to me and took off after his friend. Adam and I, astonished, gathered our gear and rowed home.

The next day at school,
the guy that was shot between the eyes...
had a bandaid and a hole, 'right between the eyes'.
And nothing was ever again said of the incident.

Though, it always reminds me of the impermanent nature of things.

Don't ask people what they want, manipulate them into wanting it. - david 

What is the definition of stupidity?
It is in demonstrating a lack of foresight in the choices we make.

Are kids stupid?

YES! because they lack the wisdom to understand the consequences.

Now please understand that we are all children.

And we are all children because of our narcissistic-egocentricity.

Meaning, we have the delusion of independence.

When, in fact, we are all interdependent.

So when looking at our predicament here on earth...

we must see how we have all co-created this madness.

And we have done so by thinking my way is the right way for everyone.

Meaning, we are trying to enforce our version of right upon others.

And this, as we should already know, doesn't work.

But instead of knowing how ineffective we are,

we choose to stay the course and participate in exacerbating our misery.

We must forgive ourselves for our past transgressions.

And the only way to do that is to take responsibility and apologize.

For in fact, our past transgressions were made on incomplete information.

So let us open our minds to a wider reality...

Let us embrace a more evolved and more effective course of action...

Let us be courageous and dedicate our lives to a more joyful tomorrow!

let us realize who we truly are...

individuations of love, life, and god.

Managing people is horse-crap!  We are all hypocrites and liars;
so we must co-create a holistic system where people self-manage. - david

And I would like to finish with a parting note on punishment:

At this point...
we gotta wonder if the human race is capable...
of letting go, our sense of self-righteousness...

while, at the same time, embracing the principle of self-forgiveness.
(self-forgiveness... being the key to transcendence)

But to do so, we must first realize our interdependence.
And to do that, we must APPRECIATE our deluded sense of independence.

Meaning, we must realize how we are ALL responsible, for ALL of us.

So, the concept of 'you reap what you sow'...
is really a justification for our condemnation of others...
and that CONcept... is the sponsoring thought to our self-righteousness.

WE MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL OF IT! and all of us.

Ok, so when it comes to crime and punishment...
we must see how the SYSTEM and how the LEADERSHIP...
co-create the the symptoms to the problem...
the problem being capitalism without values; and leadership without values.

But what values are we talking about?

We are talking about the values that lead us to a state of virtuous autonomy.
And those values are found in the paradigm of holistic humanism...
and in the principle of effective kindness...
which leads us to the state of impartial nobility.
(please see the rest of this discourse for a more detailed description)

For ULTIMATELY... if it doesn't work, then it ain't got no value!

And guess what, our system of punishment... DOES NOT WORK!

And we all must learn to forgive ourself...
and to appreciate our adolescence...
if we are to transcend our current state of misery...

for we are all indebted to life, love, and god...

FOR THE BLESSING OF EXPERIENCING... life, love, and god.

forever and all ways!

Love as a Control Drama?

Knowing you already have it, is the love of giving it to others. - david

There is so much we don't know about life and love. And so much going on in the unseen. And so little being understood all around us... I feel a severe inadequacy in my feeble attempt to broach this subject. But since my ignorance has never stopped me before... I won't let it now.

LOVE HURTS!!! that i do know.
but it only hurts because we tie an expectation to it.

Our immature love is more like a business arrangement...
and founded on the conceptualization of need.
the idea that I NEED the other to love me in the way I ENVISION.

Our mature love is more like a secret pact...
and founded on the conceptualization of M.A.D. (mutually assured destruction);
the idea that I will be vulnerable TO ONLY YOU...
and you; ONLY TO ME.

Either way... we are setting ourselves up for a great fall.

BE CAUSE we are really in a deluded power struggle in both cases.

OUR current version of love is really a control drama.
and founded on the idea of... love for power.
the idea that I POSSESS YOU and I OWN YOU.

Which ultimately is founded on the FEAR OF LOSING YOU.

Yes, it is our fear of loss and pain THAT CREATES our loss and pain.
The desire for power is the fear of loss.

So, to say that mature-love and immature-love captures the ideal of love.
IS FALSE.

And to look forward to a time when our world will know the blessings of peace...
is cowardice. WE MUST ACT NOW!

LOVE without condition.
and BE-FRIEND with communicated standards.

Meaning...
make a difference by changing your perception...
and by helping others live more joyful lives.

CONDEMN NOT and LEAD BY EXAMPLE.

enjoy the pain.
for it is a soldier of light... that takes the hit...

 The more possessive and protective you are,
the greater the chance you will lose,
that which you so desperately desire. - david

I hate being on this planet; but I love mother earth.
I love the beauty of mother earth; but I hate our society.

And the reason I hate our society so much...
Or the reason I hate being on this planet so much...
is because I am surrounded by self-righteous hypocrisy.

And self-righteous hypocrisy is based on our delusional definition of faith.
For to have faith in god... is to have faith in love.

But faith in love means what exactly?
Well, faith is trust without reservations.
So faith in love... is trusting LOVE without reservations.

And how EXACTLY do I trust love without reservations?

First, understand that there is no faith without doubt.
So the paradigm of trusting love, without reservations,
IS an act of faith.
And this is because doubt is ever present.
For there can't be one without the other.

But this still doesn't answer the question...
HOW do I trust LOVE without reservations?

We do so by being loyal to the principle of effective kindness.
For faith is about trusting in your good WORKS...
to deliver you to the joy and truth within.

And the only way to DO good works,
is to help others... HELP OTHERS!

But know this...
there is a process in becoming loyal to the principle of effective kindness.
And the process is riddled with mistakes; which teaches us humility.

And humility is a virtue which cannot be denied; if we are to be faithful.

Archetypal Control Dramas

I ask that you build a bridge to belief.
I ask that you logically and experientially do this.
I ask that you analyze and experiment with the tools given to you.
I ask that you stay loyal to you.
That you have standards.
That you change your standards based upon a grander vision.
That you set no man above you.
I ask that you honor life.
That you honor you.
That you honor me.
That you honor creation.
- david

Ok...
so, why is everyone so scared of emotion.
I mean... emotions,

when integrated, synthesized and synergized;

with reason and action, IS PASSION!

And passion is the spark of life.

But passion is also a dangerous flame...
and when combined with egoism...
can lead you to becoming Darth Vader!

Also, when we are children... vying for control...
we use our synergized emotions in clever ways.

IMMATURE CONTROL DRAMAS

Divine Child: immature control drama
And the divine child is 'normally' how it all begins.
The divine child is the center of the universe.
The divine child is also totally helpless.
This makes it easy for the child to RULE the adults.
And this is why parents must cultivate and manipulate.
So the child does not grow into becoming a SPOILED BRAT!

Precocious: immature control drama
For the spoiled brat is the precocious child.
And this makes the child an obnoxious know it all...
as well as a naive dummy.
BUT WE MUST UNDERSTAND...
that the child is simply manipulating the 'adults'...
into serving the child as the child sees fit.
DO NOT GIVE IN!
work at giving your child an excellent work ethic.
and this means taking risks.
for there is no evolvement without risk.

Oedipal: immature control drama
The brat then leads us to the oedipal child...
again, a type of immature control drama...
designed to manipulate the 'adults' into...
becoming OWNED.
and this is normally done by pitting one parent...
against the other.
while at the same time...
being an isolated dreamer...
thus giving the child the freedom to remain a child forever.
all the while hoping the one parent he identifies with...
will vanquish the other.
thus replacing the other parent...
and being a prince for all eternity.

Hero/Martyr: immature control drama
Then the prince will create delusions of grandeur...
by wanting to become a HERO!
but really, the child feels inadequate to act as an adult...
and is using bravado as a method to hide his cowardice.
so the child becomes a grandstander-bully...
all the while knowing he is afraid someone will...
discover his true pitiful self.
And this is the truth behind martyrdom...
a desire to overcome our perceived weaknesses.
Trust me, only complete fools have a desire to become martyrs.
A true hero, is a soldier of love.
For the soldier takes the hit, and lives to fight another day.

Scientist: immature control drama

And then we come to the most common type of control drama...
the rational and cold-hearted scientist.
This is someone who detaches emotionally from their actions...
someone who is in a constant state of blame...
never taking responsibility for the actions of those around him.
thus justifying his behavior as necessary;
for who in their right mind would care about anyone...
for no one cares about him.
The scientist doesn't realize that his paradigm...
calls his experiences into his life.
and that there is no one to blame but himself.

MATURE CONTROL DRAMAS

Wizard: masculine and mature control drama
Listen, I have been grappling with a Wizard for many years now...
and I know everything there is to know about these type of guys...
and as the Wizard of Oz illustrates...
they use the method of lying, exaggerating and omitting..
or the method of manipulation...
while pretending to be selfless, seasoned and wise.
They pretend to be these things...
because they have not balanced manipulation...
with the methods of nurturing and cultivation.
The funny thing is though...
I love sparring with wizards... for they keep things lively.
Though I must admit... I would have rather not.

Consort: feminine and mature control drama
And so we cum now to the feminine aspect of control.
The Consort.
The consort pretends to be nurturing...
while acting the part of majesty.
An extremely effective method of control...
for the masculine is so easily seduced by these two methods.
You see,
this majestic form of nurturing...
is very similar to how a snake slithers in the sand.
for the consort doesn't guard against wounded love...
nor does she cultivate the man into interdependency.
The consort may be a great lay...
but that is because we are pursuing desire...
rather than love.
A truly monumental trick of the ego...
and yet, the consort affair...
can be quite intriguing.
but ultimately leads us to the darkness of lust.
Again, a fun jaunt in the jungle...
but a journey I would have rather not taken.

Mercenary: masculine and mature control drama

And now the Mercenary.
A truly filthy, and purely capitalistic, approach to life.
But the justification for becoming a mercenary...
is in the belief that we are exploring the adventure of life.
And yet, there is no fulfillment in this exploration.
And this is because the actions of the mercenary lack value.
For the mercenary does not cultivate others into become soldiers.
Nor does the mercenary have a purpose for the greater good.
And to go on a mission without the ballast of altruism...
is to become a part of the godless horde.
Though, and yet again, mercenaries can be fun to run with.
But in the end, they will as soon stab you in the back...
as extend their hand in support.
The mercenary is chaotic in nature.
for the mercenary pretends to have a heart.

Bitch: feminine and mature control drama
And here is the person who guards against being taken advantage of.
while also cultivating others to be like her.
the bitch will consistently prove that others are untrustworthy...
by manipulating other into behaving selfishly.
All the while, not realizing, it is her paradigm...
that creates such mistrust.
The bitch will pretend to be selfless and wise...
when she is really just a petty thief.
For the bitch will prevent anyone...
from becoming the lover within.

BE A LOVER!

Lovers: our true selves
All of these archetypal control dramas are used by most of us...
and are typically a result of some trauma the person has gone through.
but this is no excuse, nor is it a justification; just a simple explanation.

For it is an individual's responsibility to rise above their past.
By letting it go...
and by using it to make us stronger!

We must all rise above our stations in life.
And we must do so by becoming truly selfless.
This means we must soldier-on...
in our journey of evolution...
and we must...
guard against...
becoming less than we truly are.

WE MUST BECOME LOVERS!
for it is the lover, who channels his emotions...
into a purpose and a mission...
that helps others... to help themselves.
And for no other reason...
then it makes him happy to do so.